A root from a vine |
In I Samuel 18:1-30 and I Samuel 19:1-18, the Scripture writer describes the slow deterioration of a relationship that started out well in the beginning. David had come upon the scene as a shepherd boy who was visiting his brothers to bring them food at the scene of a battle with the Philistines. Everyone in the army fears the giant Goliath but David takes him on with a sling and a stone defeating this threat to Israel. Saul is impressed and welcomes David into to his court as a musician. Eventually David also becomes a military leader and this is where the trouble starts. For we see that David is more successful than Saul, and the people praise him highly. Thus begins the jealousy in Saul's heart that leads him to try to kill David even though he is a part of the family having married Michal (Saul's daughter). Even Jonathan, David's best friend and Saul's son, tries to intervene to no avail. For seven long years, David had to run and hide in order to avoid being killed by Saul. But who was Saul really mad at? David?
Behind the bitterness that Saul felt in his heart is a deep rooted anger at God. Saul had been anointed a king, but he failed to obey God several times. Samuel, the prophet, told him that the kingdom would be taken from him and his family as a result of his failure to follow God's laws (I Samuel 15:26-28). Saul tried to justify his actions to Samuel but this did not change the fact that someone else would rule and reign. When David came on the scene and God's favor was upon him, Saul reacted with jealousy at his success as well as bitterness that God had abandoned him. His solution was to eliminate David. In the end, Saul's disobedience led to his death and the death of his son Jonathan.
Bitterness distorts
the human soul, and the person that suffers the most is the one who is infected with this sin. If we are a Christian this is something we must pull out by the root so it does not continue to grow. In his letter to the Ephesians, Paul writes: "Get rid of all bitterness, rage, and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you" (Ephesians 4:31-32). So the first thing we must do when bitterness begins to grow is to forgive the other person who offended us. Then, we need to begin praying for that person. This changes our heart quicker than any other thing. Finally, we need to try to get to know that person. Our anger and bitterness is often a reflection of how we feel about God rather than another person. Maybe we didn't get the recognition we thought we deserved and the other person got it instead. Yet we focus our disappointment on them instead of immediately taking it to the Lord in prayer. We must not allow bitterness to gain a foothold in our heart.
Recently, a war hero died, and over the course of years, I had seen him go from being an effective public servant with a likable demeanor to someone who had become very bitter towards the President. It seemed that he tried to throw a monkey wrench into whatever was proposed by the President. He even disinvited several people from coming to his funeral. In my eyes, he had become a bitter man. Why, I do not know nor do I understand, but it caused me to stop and think how much this sin can damage our character as well as our legacy. Just as in gardening, we have to grab bitterness by the root and eliminate it lest it consume us and destroy our witness for Jesus Christ. God grant us the strength to pull it out by the roots! Selah!